Do you feel the anxiety of sharing your blog posts after hitting publish? Well, I do. It’s one thing to overcome the feeling of publishing your content online, it’s another thing to boldly share it with the online community. Looking at it from another angle, it’s even easier to share tutorials, researched lists and how-to kind of posts that is not anything about you. When it comes to a post that is based on a personal story and experience, (I don’t know about you) I still get anxious about sharing the content on my social networks. I sometimes find myself wishing some persons will find the story and do the sharing for me. However, I still find a way to overcome these fears and do the sharing anyway. Do you still have to deal with the feeling of rejection when it comes with sharing what you’ve written and probably published? Here are possible ways and thoughts to deal with these virtual emotions and, like Melanie Kissell puts it, get to spend your social currency. It’ll take you less than 6 minutes to read this and it should work.
Write quality content
If you fear that people may not like what you write, let that fear compel you to take the time to produce quality contents. If you are happy with what you have to share, you’ll be more encouraged to share it. Think of it like you’re being stingy to hold back your valuable thoughts.
All you need is hit the right buttons
Is your post ready for sharing? Think about the ways you want to share it (facebook, twitter, comments, groups, forums), hit that share button and get it over with.
What difference does it make?
If you don’t share your thoughts with the world, would you rather die with it? Think about the faces you see in newspapers and magazines. They are people who let the world know what and how they think. Let us know what and how you think. Someone will definitely think alike. Well, even if most don’t, it will help you revise your thoughts and do better next time.
You are not here for everyone -;)
You don’t need to please anyone. You are here to make your life, and the life, of some one out there better. Few or no one really cares if you achieve your blogging goals or not. The bigger players are busy innovating, trying to do things differently and hope to make a greater difference. The mid-successfuls want to stretch their limits even further and network with likeminded people. The small players are struggling to follow the right principles to achieve their goals. The newcomers are looking for the right place to belong. So virtually everyone is too busy to memorize how much of a loser you might think you are. The most anyone can do is ignore what you have to say today. So it’s your duty (not anyone else’s) to get your ideas noticed. Ignore those feelings, type the right words and hit the right buttons.
Accept you are human
Being too ego protective is the main reason for these fears. You don’t want to be noted as a no-gooder. Let me assure you that most of the people you meet have these fears to deal with. It happens that the achievers understand the feelings and have learnt to keep guard of their fears. You don’t need to rid of your fears. What you need is to study them, understand how they hinder your progress and keep them where they belong each time they shows up. Feel free to make mistakes and get better. You’re only human.
Appreciate other bloggers work
If you want something, you should be willing to give it. I’ve read several teachings about giving to receive, and I’m tailoring my live to revolve around this principal. With the little experience I’ve had, it works. If you want comments on your new blog, go out and comment on blogs in your niche (large or small blogs? doesn’t matter). If someone says something that inspires or helps you, you owe it to them to show appreciation by leaving a non-spammy comment. Appreciate other people’s work and your work will be appreciated. Does it work for you? Have you figured the magic behind this? Please share with us below.
Be transparent
Say what has to be said. Let it come from the bosom of your heart. It’s called marketing from your conscience (I first got that from StevePavlina).
The world wide web is for everyone.
Yes! You need to understand this. As long as what you have to share does not go against a sites’ or groups’ rules and regulation, no one would bite you for sharing your honest opinion. The worst is you get a negative comment or be ignored. However, you wouldn’t get anything like, “Hey! This post is not fit for the web. Therefore you are hereby banned from accessing the internet”. As long as your content will be useful to someone somewhere, it’s worth sharing on the web. How do/did you overcome the fear of sharing your blog contents? I could use some more resourceful thoughts and strategies.
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Ikenna- I disagree or hope you effected a typo! We are not here, in my opinion, to make our lives better, but to make our readers’ lives better or more useful.
Hi Roy,
I get your point of view on that statement. Yes! It’s all about our readers. My first point totally agrees to that.
However, here is my perspective on that.
Doesn’t making our readers lives better consequently make our own lives better? What better life than being in the position to write to help others. If blogging doesn’t make the bloggers life any better, then, I don’t see the point in the first place.
Personally being in the position to help people through my writing and blogging, is something that keeps every other daily part of my life energized. And it encourages me to be more helpful..
And I’ve never had a better life..
Thanks Roy, for putting more life to the discussion.. You just gave me the chance to emphasize on that point..
On a second thought, I just added a few extra lines to that “You are here to make your life, and the life, of someone out there better“.
Thanks so much for pointing that out.
I can remember when I used to say “hit the publish button quick”. And then breathe cause it was done! I have gotten past that fear. I really focus on the idea that my niche of people will read my blog and love what they read. I do my best not to worry about the critics who might stop by and voice an opinion that helps bring up a fear…. I know what I want to share and I know there is a crowd out there waiting to hear it… so I keep at it!! Great post, Ikenna.
Hi Holly,
It’s good to hear your personal experience and how you dealt with that; focusing on the positive side of the situation.
Thanks for the interesting contribution. It’s good to have you around…
Life is short, and this artclie saved valuable time on this Earth.
I still get that nervous feeling before I hit publish. It’s getting easier to hit publish, the more I do it though.
When I first started blogging I did a lot more tutorials, guides, and sharing things that weren’t about me or personal at all. The more I’ve blogged, the better I’ve gotten at accepting some of the points you’ve brought up here — I am *not* perfect, I *am* going to make mistakes, and that’s okay. And I’m also not blogging to please everyone. Accepting that makes it much easier to hit submit and then promote my posts.
Hi Michelle,
Nicely and clearly stated. The more you blogged, the more you embrace the realities of blogging.
I love your approach to this and I can tell it’s super effective; not worrying about building a perfect blog for everyone..
I appreciate your coming by to make such a resourceful contribute.
Really nice post man.thanx for the sharing…
Ikenna, thanks for the tips, I greatly believe that writing quality content and being completely yourself and as honest as you can can make your blog shine at best. I’m always anxious about posting posts based on subjects that are take from personal experiences, but I’ve always believed that honesty and inviting others to engage with you can eliminate some of that fear. Thanks for the tips again and keep up the great work as always.
Truly awesome … Thanks for sharing 🙂
Hi Ikenna, this tips are priceless.
By the way, I’m happy to meet you. Today is my first day to come to your blog, I’m your brother from 9ja and a blogger who makes a living off the internet.
You have taught me how to overcome fears of sharing my blog posts. I’m so grateful and encouraged to proceed. I actually run a “web traffic blog” and you can learn a lot about traffic generation. Bye!
Hi Mike,
It’s nice to have you on my blog. I’m glad I could be of help. I’ll check over your blog to add a few tricks to my ban.
Thanks for your comment
One thing I’ve learnt from reading this post is “marketing from your conscience.” Thanks a lot bro.
Thanks GADEL for dropping by to comment. Glad you got one thing to take away..
I prefer stumbleupon, facebook, twitter, reddit and Digg buttons to press after posting an article. the best visits i get from stumbleupon and facebook.
Atleast, you except your position Eskay! Others on here deny the truth most of the time!